Valentine’s season is near, and crush questions are piling up from readers across Canada and the United States. The advice column plans to answer a few of these questions in the weeks ahead, sharing practical tips that respect young feelings and the importance of friendships. The goal is to help middle school readers understand their emotions, speak with care, and take small steps that feel right for them. Because many readers are grappling with similar moments, it makes sense to check back for new responses and real world examples they can relate to during this time of year.
Questions from readers are collected through the column’s official channel and answered with clear, age appropriate guidance. There are no direct contact details included here, but the writers promise thoughtful, practical advice designed for growing up and for first crushes in North America.
A reader in Ontario, aged 11, shared a story about last year when a classmate who was a best friend attended a dance and had fun. After that night the classmate told the writer’s best friend that he liked the writer, and the writer realized she liked him too. The news was especially hard because he was moving to Hamilton and would likely attend a different middle school. She had not told him how she felt yet, and a sense of unease lingered as the situation changed.
That core question drives the guidance offered here. The writer explains how a crush can bring both excitement and fear, and that nervousness often signals genuine care. If the feelings are real, sharing them before the moment passes can open the door to something meaningful. The guidance suggests bringing up the topic when there is real comfort and a relaxed moment, whether face to face or during a long conversation on the phone. It also notes that a positive response is common when both people care, and that telling the truth about what is felt is a brave move.
– Confused, 11, ON
The response begins by validating the nerves and the thrill of possible romance. It is normal to feel unsettled when the situation involves a close friend and looming changes. The idea is to approach the moment with clarity, not pressure, and to choose a time when both sides feel ready and at ease. A direct, kind expression can set the tone and reduce confusion for everyone involved. If the writer worries about clarity, it can help to rehearse the small talk alone, then try a calm moment when the other person is present and receptive.
Tell him what is felt in simple terms, and keep the focus on honesty without demanding a reaction. The plan is to speak with gentleness and confidence, to acknowledge the fear but also the opportunity. If he shares similar feelings, his reaction is likely positive and the change in the situation will feel manageable. If the move to Hamilton creates distance, it may be wise to consider timing and pace. Waiting a little while to think and to spend more time together can help the writer be sure about her own feelings. The aim is to protect the friendship while staying true to personal emotions, and to be prepared for any outcome without pressuring the other person.
– Maggie
Friendship troubles? Crush concerns? Questions can be submitted through the column’s official channel for thoughtful, age appropriate answers.